Perfectionism kills your creativity

The best people in the world in their profession weren’t always best. They were beginners just like you and me. The difference is that they understood that they didn’t have to be great to start, but had to start to be great.

When you start before you’re ready, you are able to create a new path as you go. You must also understand that you can always stop, change your plans, go back and re-evaluate your progress. They key here is to begin.

If you try to make everything perfect or wait for the perfect moment you will never get anywhere. Nobody got good by being perfect. We learn from our mistakes and then we can tweak our actions until we find something that works just a little better. When we do this on a daily basis everything changes.

Whenever you feel the urge to have all the stars aligned before you can start, allow yourself to breathe, relax and tell yourself that being perfect is impossible. Nothing, ever, has been perfect. Do you think the universe thought it had to be perfect before it exploded into the Big Bang? Do you think it had doubts? Not at all. It just exploded and let everything go. That’s what you can do. Explode into your natural self, show the world your uniqueness in all its glory, warts and all, and let it go.

What the world needs is more people like you. Your unique voice and opinions. Your compassion, love and understanding. Since we’re all flawed beings, why not embrace that?

Knowledge is power, but knowledge is also a skill and we can learn any skill when we set our minds to it.

When I was a kid in school I was unable to write a two page essay and I then told myself that I couldn’t write. I was useless, lacked imagination and would never amount to anything. This thought then became my truth because I never told anyone about it and by not telling anybody I didn’t get the help I needed. We can place a lot of blame on the system. As it seems to me is that the system shapes young and creative children into good workers for the elite. We’re meant to obey, shut up, not think and just do what we’re told. Failure is punished and success is rewarded.

This in turn made me think that I had to do everything by myself, that I had to fix all my problems alone. I had to be perfect and I hid away all my flaws and shortcomings. Not really a good choice, but I didn’t know anything else. This humble beginning led me down a path of self deprecation, self loathing, self hate, depression and anxiety. All the way to the point where I started to plan on ending my life.

Looking at my, then, one year old son, tears streaming down my face I realized I needed help and was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for six weeks. Heavily medicated I made it through and surfaced. I realized that I wasn’t well, but I was able to breathe and live. I was offered one year of group therapy and accepted. I met and got to know a group of wonderful people, but I was still in the mindset that I had to fix everything myself. Still am, to be honest. Still learning.

One book that really gave me food for thought was the before-mentioned book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. I felt as though he wrote about me and my life. I was in awe. How could a person on the other side of the globe know me so well? I didn’t understand. It was a real page turner as I wanted to know more. I have now read the book twice and will continue to read it as many times as necessary.

Life is a work in progress. When you understand this, not just intellectually, but deep in your heart, you will also see the next possible steps you can take to improve. With an open mind and with open eyes, you can begin to experiment and tweak your life. Your life is your laboratory. Go out there and have fun before it’s too late.

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